How to train ourselves to be more peaceful: Crying.
FROM AN ARTICLE BY THEA E. about crying: "What are we doing to our boys when we say to them 'be a big boy, don't cry'? Or make fun of them for crying?
If somebody hurts you? You could try to hurt them back, or you could cry.
As we cry, our violent impulses wash away. Crying disperses violent impulses. Crying disperses the urge to make the other person hurt the way that we are hurting.
It doesn't happen to girls nearly as much as boys; girls are allowed to cry. But to make boys hold it in, and to complain later about the results??
Arnie Mindell, one of the conflict resolution people I most admire [Thea E.], says that this is one of the most important things in being able to not retaliate, i.e., in learning how to have a non-violent response to other people's aggressions. He says that this is an important part of how to take other people's hurtful intent and actions that are coming at you, which may feel like injury or trespass, and not reflexively lash back. "
How to train ourselves to be more peaceful: Crying.
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If somebody hurts you? You could try to hurt them back, or you could cry.
As we cry, our violent impulses wash away. Crying disperses violent impulses. Crying disperses the urge to make the other person hurt the way that we are hurting.
It doesn't happen to girls nearly as much as boys; girls are allowed to cry. But to make boys hold it in, and to complain later about the results??
How to train ourselves to be more peaceful: Crying.
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