World aids day

Louise Hay in one her books explained how she always likes to spell AIDS as 'aids', all lowercase letters, because she feels that uppercase augments from the fear and awesomeness of the disease. I second that thought! Let's all spell it 'aids' to give it its rightful place as just another disease, no more devastating or sorrowful, and now more than ever before SURVIVABLE!!

Here's her message on this aids awareness day: www.HealYourLife.com

What Do YOU bElieve iN?

Beliefs.

What are beliefs? How are they formed? How can they create or destroy our lives?

Beliefs are a fundamental part of our internal [psychological] systems that greatly shape and affect our day to day decisions and actions. 

Not all beliefs are important or critical.

Core or global beliefs are crucially important beliefs that deeply affect all departments of our lives; for example your beliefs regarding life, money, yourself, death and God.

So what are beliefs? 

They are a feeling of certainty towards any given issue or matter; they start by forming as an opinion, then gradually turn into a conviction. Beliefs, once adopted are seldom questioned, but on the contrary, we tend to validate them through our actions and responses.

[Through "Cognitive Therapy"  we can work on restructuring our core beliefs into healthier ones that serve us better in our growth and development.]

Where do beliefs come from?

The first source is 'deep incidents':

challenges, tragedies, major events and critical situations will certainly act as a main source of beliefs.

Someone who experiences a severe illness, for instance, will have a possible change in their beliefs about life [death and illness] and maybe about their own self.

The second source is 'people you trust':

they can be so influential that they'll make you believe or not believe in so many things in life.

Yet, we mostly trust people based on emotions rather than logic or intellect.

The third source is our understanding and interpretation of God's principles [or Life];

and there can be a big difference between interpretations and reality.

The fourth source would [be your own] rational thinking [and analysis] based on information and data collected throughout your life.

The fifth source is your personal imagination and self-discovery journey.  

Once you believe something, you brain operates on auto-pilot, validating your belief, regardless of what it is.

[That is unless you consciously take charge, become aware of what your core beliefs are and how they affect you, and then choose what you beliefs are!] 

written by Ahmed El-Aawar

excerpted from Teenstuff Magazine, January 2010 issue.

The RESCUER Syndrome

Like an addiction, as bad as heroin,

feeling responsible for how other people are feeling

(the rescuer compulsion)

is like being under a bad spell

you have to allow people to have their bad times

you are violating a boundary in trying to make their

journey perfect

when others are upset
it's actually YOU 
YOU are the one who's upset!

the problem is you!

IT's YOUR comfort zone that's a problem!

what you can do?

get a grip on yourself

leave them alone

become ok with other people being unhappy

develop a stronger gut

you need to be able to endure other people on their life journey

without being uncomfortable

because you are too vulnerable like that!!

Freedom from Self-hate

 Contemporary psychologists like Rubin, Meiss and Horney uncovered an important dynamic that is put in place in our childhood: when we experience very strong violent urges (anger) and if our environment does not allow for expressing them, there is no other way for those violent emotions to be oriented except toward THE SELF!

The resultant self-hate is a very common feeling that we all recognize in ourselves. It serves to save the nacent personality from feeling powerless and vanquished. The drawback is that this dynamic lays the groundwork for years of self-inflicted pain, that of self-hate.

It is very much like a groove on a record that begins to form. The more you harp on it, the deeper the groove in the mind, the more likely this pattern is to be repeated.

The good news is: for as long as you are alive, you can continue to restructure the mind always, and to create new, more desirable patterns that allow you to live a happier, less constricted life.
Healing means TO LOVE YOURSELF, the more natural starting pattern in all of us, instead of the unnatural self-hate that sets in under difficult coping circumstances.

What are some common difficult coping circumstances?

A shouting, raging atmosphere at home and intense anger that the child may misconstrue to be her fault. Another is exacting, faultfinding parenting, that's quick to criticize and always makes you feel you're not "good enough"..

That can leaves you with a deep dread, always, that 'THEY WILL FIND OUT that I am not "good enough" '. This is such a common emotion that even grown-ups feel throughout their life, both professional and personal.

If you continuously run away from the fear of not being "good enough", then it may follow you into adult life. The great news is that you can put an end to it RIGHT NOW. Simply choose right here and now a different way, decide that no matter how well you perform or not (no matter what grade you get or don't get) YOU APROVE OF YOURSELF ANYWAY!!

Even though this is SIMPLE to do, it is by no means EASY, so persevere in your efforts; you may be working against centuries of evolution set into your system, because a fear of not being "good enough" may have meant being abandoned. The key is to REWIRE your system to work FOR you, not AGAINST you. Affirmations can help. They are clear statements of intention, always phrased positively.
You simply need to repeat them to yourself in order for the groove in the mind to grow strong and deep. The key it practice, practice, practice; like any new skill, whether playing piano or speaking a new language, it needs to be acquired through practice.

Affirmations (check http://www.Healyourlife.com/ for more)

I release the need to punish myself
I approve of ME! no matter what!

I allow Grace to sweep over me 

Grace sets me free to a new way of being

I choose to approve of myself

Healing the Judgment Habit

There is an important distinction between discerning and judging and an article by Jennifer Hadley offers to expose it:

“Many things in life seem painful, horrible, destructive – even evil. Yet if we live in a universe of oneness and divine order, there must be a spiritual purpose to everything, regardless of whether [or not] we see it. 

[Ernest] Holmes taught that evil is [one definition of evil]: “that which appears destructive. And we all know that appearances are deceiving.”

Hadley goes further in her expose, relating the roots of our habit of judging, among others, to what she calls “traditional belief systems” which according to her, don’t support the concepts of divine right order and encourage the judging habit.

“Judging others, and ourselves,” she writes, “is reinforced by traditional belief systems, which don’t support the concepts of divine law. In old belief systems, God is Chief Justice himself, a tyrant who plays favorites and tests us”. In those systems of belief, “God serves as the omnipresent judgment role model. In that old thought system, we search for ways of self-medicating to ease our suffering, rather than spending our energy sharing our gifts and talents. The habit of judgment is not only socially acceptable, it’s encouraged. You might say our culture is addicted to judging.

One can choose instead to be “available for Spirit to bring forth love, healing and harmony” or divine right order.

In conclusion she says:

“When[ever] I’m willing to give up my opinion, I’ll finally have a chance of seeing divine order… Each time I demonstrate my willingness I become lighter.”

Summer Nights

How beautiful the summer nights
and how quickly they slip by
making us forget all about life and existence
instilling in us instead the deepest happiness

if wishes could come true
the biggest one would be the
endless perpetuation of those
blossoming summer nights

where everything is beautiful
and expanding in your dreams
where the moon slithers across the sky
lost in the imaginings of her love

the still nature evokes with its sounds
the longings of the heart to love
but the days do not stop for wishes
and are not moved by the lamenting
of souls in their sleepless anguish

Translated from Zeinab
the story of an Egyptian peasant girl
by Mohamed Hussein Heikal

no death, no fear

Wherever I am
I become more centered
live more consciously
There is nowhere else to go
Everything that needs to happen
needs to happen within me
And it is in my hands


Thich Nhat Hahn, in no death, no fear

This being human is a guest house

As presented by Jim Clark on youtube 

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture.
Still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-- Jalaluddin Rumi, translation by Coleman Bark

The Spirit That Loves The Ants

I talk to my inner lover and I say, why such rush? We sense that there is some sort of spirit that loves birds and animals and the ants -- perhaps the same one who gave a radiance to you in your mother's womb.


Is it logical you would be walking around entirely orphaned now?


The truth is, you turned away yourself, and decided to go into the dark alone. Now you are tangled up in others and have forgotten what you once knew, and that is why everything you do has some weird failure in it.

A song from the mystic Kabir

A Restorative Yoga Posture

From Yoga and the Wisdom of Menopause by Suza Francina

A restorative Yoga posture especially recommended for replenishing your adrenal reserves. Help calm the mind so that your whole approach to life gradually becomes less hectic and depleting.

Supported Lying Down Pose lie down with your legs propped on pillows, feet joined and knees relaxed to the sides. Arms are outstreched to your sides at 45 degree angles to your torso.

Supported Lying Down Pose is a healing, nurturing, deeply nourishing pose to practice. It relieves tension and constriction in the abdomen, uterus and vagina. Blood flow is directed into the pelvis, bathing the reproductive organs and glands and helping to balance hormone function. 

Especially useful during the menstrual period and the menopausal transition.

The centering, balancing effect of this pose helps reduce mood swings and depression.

Practicing this pose will also help you fall asleep at night and recover from lack of sleep during the day. 

Divining in the Present Moment

Divination is a practical technique that we can use to align ourselves with Universal Flow. It provides the means of understanding the deeper dynamics of a situation in our lives.

By understanding how the underlying dynamics of a current situation are moving, we can make a conscious choice to move with it or against it; and thus enhance the magical element of Flow and Synchronicity in our lives. 

Carl Jung found divination key in his thinking about synchronicity.

(modified from The Power of Flow)

<< to divine: to uncover, reveal, guess, intuit hidden knowledge;

from the Latin 'divinatus', past participle of 'divinare', literally, "to be inspired by a god". >>

FeeLINg DePLeTeD

CAUSe, eFFeCT, AND
TRANSFORMATION.
FeeLINg DePLeTeD.
There are times in our lives when it seems our bodies are running on empty. We are not sick, nor are we necessarily pushing ourselves to the limit—rather, the energy we typically enjoy has mysteriously dissipated, leaving only fatigue.
Many people grow accustomed to feeling this
way because they do not know that it is possible to exist in any other state. The body’s natural state, however, is one of energy, clarity, and balance. Cultivating these virtues in our own bodies so that we can combat feelings of depletion is a matter of developing a refined awareness of the self and
then making changes based on our observations.
A few scant moments of focused self-examination in which you assess your recent schedule, diet, and general health may help you zero in on the factors causing your depletion.
If you are struggling to cope with an overly full agenda, prioritization can provide you with more time to
sleep and otherwise refresh yourself. Switching to a diet containing plenty of nutritious foods may serve to restore your vigor, especially when augmented by supplements like B vitamins or ginseng. Consider, too, that a visit to a healer or homeopath will likely provide you with wonderful
insights into your tiredness.
But identifying the source of your exhaustion will occasionally be more complicated than spotting a void in your lifestyle and filling it with some form of literal nourishment.
Since your earthly and ethereal forms are so intimately entwined, matters of the mind and heart can take their toll on your physical self. Intense emotions such as anger, sadness, jealousy, and regret need fuel to manifest in your consciousness; and this fuel is more often than not bodily energy. Conversely, a lack of mental and emotional stimulation may leave you feeling listless and lethargic.
Coping with and healing physical depletion will be easier when you accept that the underlying cause might be more complex than you at first imagined. A harried lifestyle or a diet low in vital nutrients can represent only one part of a larger issue affecting your mood, stamina, and energy levels. When you believe that you are ultimately in control of how you feel, you will be empowered to transform yourself
and your day-to-day life so that fatigue can no longer gain a lasting foothold in your existence.
From DailyOM, by Madisyn Taylor

where is the sun???

the Source. when we speak of being grounded or centered it is this source that we talk about.  when we begin a creative project, it is this source that we tune into.  this card reminds us that there is a vast reservoir of energy available to us.  it is within each of us, pulsating like the sun giving us life and nourishment and we don't even have to leave home to find it ..

(OSHO: the sun is inside of you!!!)

Adrenal Exhaustion

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW
by Obstetrician-gynecologist Dr. Christiane Northrup

The adrenal glands are your body’s primary "shock absorbers." These two little thumb-sized glands sitting on top of your kidneys produce hormones including norepinephrine, cortisol and DHEA that allow you to respond to the conditions of your daily life in healthy and flexible ways.

Norepinephrine (also called adrenaline) is commonly thought of as the fight-or-flight hormone. It’s produced when something is (or you think it is) threatening. This hormone makes your heart pound, your blood rush to your heart and large muscle groups, your pupils widen, your brain sharpen, and your tolerance for pain increase—basically, it prepares you for battle. Modern-day battles are most likely things like pushing your body to keep going when it’s fatigued, dealing with a stressful job, and reacting with quick reflexes to avoid a traffic accident. Think of these adrenaline surges as withdrawals from a bank, to help you get through life’s rough spots. If you have gotten into the habit of withdrawing adrenaline from your account too often, you’ll eventually be overdrawn and your adrenal glands will be overwhelmed. Then, you’ll have too little adrenaline when you really need it.

Cortisol increases your appetite and energy level while toning down your immune system’s allergic and inflammatory responses. This hormone stimulates the storage and release of energy in the body, helps the body resist the stressful effects of infections, trauma, and temperature extremes, and helps you maintain stable emotions. Synthetic versions of cortisol—prednisone and cortisone, for example—are often prescribed to help people perk up and feel better so they will eat, drink, and move around more and therefore be better able to fight off illness or heal from an injury. Ideally, cortisol is released into the system only on an occasional basis, rather than in response to chronic stress. If cortisol levels become too high for too long, they may have undesirable side effects, including loss of bone density, muscle wasting, thinning of the skin, decreased ability to build protein, kidney damage, fluid retention, spiking blood sugar levels, weight gain, and increased vulnerability to bacteria, viruses, fungi, yeasts, allergies, parasites, and even cancer.

Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) is an androgen that is produced by both the adrenal glands and the ovaries. DHEA helps to neutralize cortisol’s immune-suppressant effect, thereby improving resistance to disease. (Cortisol and DHEA are inversely proportional to each other. When one is up, the other goes down.) DHEA also helps to protect and increase bone density, guards cardiovascular health by keeping "bad" cholesterol (LDL) levels under control, provides vitality and energy, sharpens the mind, and helps maintain normal sleep patterns. Like norepinephrine and cortisol, DHEA also improves your ability to recover from episodes of stress and trauma, overwork, temperature extremes, etc. And if a woman is experiencing a decline in libido due to falling testosterone levels, often it is declining DHEA levels that are at the root of the testosterone deficiency, as DHEA is the main ingredient the body uses to manufacture testosterone.

If the intensity and frequency of the stresses in your life—either those internally driven (such as your perceptions about your life) or those externally driven (such as having surgery or working the night shift)—become too great, then over time your adrenal glands will begin to become exhausted. This will mean that you are much more likely to suffer from fatigue and menopausal symptoms. And a woman in a state of adrenal exhaustion is likely to find herself at a distinct disadvantage when entering perimenopause, because perimenopause itself is an additional form of stress.

Adrenal exhaustion usually suggests that there are long-standing life problems in need of resolution. These issues will loom all the larger when seen with the no-nonsense mental clarity of perimenopause, but not only will adrenal exhaustion make the transition needlessly unpleasant, it also can deprive a woman of the resources she needs to address those issues and to take full advantage of the creative promise of the second half of her life.

Abnormal adrenaline and cortisol levels can result in mood disorders, sleep disturbances, reduced resistance to disease, and changes in vital circulation. Because these side effects are not uncomfortable enough to be intolerable, a self-destructive, adrenal-depleting lifestyle often continues. DHEA, which helps the body recover from this sort of chronic abuse, gets revved up full time instead of only episodically. Gradually the adrenal glands become seriously exhausted, with the first and most profound effect being their waning ability to produce DHEA. As levels of this restorative hormone fall, cortisol and adrenaline levels begin to fluctuate as well, as the adrenal glands attempt to fill increasingly impossible orders for more support.

The result is often relentless, debilitating fatigue that is the hallmark of adrenal exhaustion. Though this fatigue is often accompanied by depressed mood, irritability, and loss of interest in life, this doesn’t mean that the adrenal problem is necessarily the cause of the mood change, any more than similar problems are always caused by thyroid malfunction. That is why these emotional symptoms do not always go away with treatment—the underlying issues remain unresolved until they are specifically addressed by behavior and lifestyle changes.

LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Here are some typical signs that your adrenals may need attention: You awaken feeling groggy and have difficulty dragging yourself out of bed. You can’t get going without that first cup or two of caffeinated coffee or tea. You not only rely on sugary snacks and caffeine to get through the day but find you actually crave sweets, particularly in the late morning or afternoon. (Perhaps you’ve even been diagnosed with hypoglycemia.) Your thinking is foggy and you have memory problems. You suffer from recurrent infections, headaches and depression. At night, though exhausted, you have trouble falling asleep as the worries of the day replay in your head and you suffer from insomnia. Ordinary stresses have an impact that is out of proportion to their importance. You wonder what happened to your interest in sex. If this description fits you, your adrenals may be running on empty, even if all your conventional medical tests are normal.

Conventional blood tests, taken at whatever time your doctor has scheduled your appointment, might indicate that your adrenals are normal. However, a better diagnostic approach will test your levels at different times of the day, which is much more likely to reveal an out-of-whack pattern of cortisol or DHEA secretion. Adrenal fatigue is characterized by cortisol levels that are too high at night and not high enough in the morning.

WHAT CAUSES THIS
Unabated stress over long periods of time that is not addressed combined with a nutrient-poor diet is what usually leads to adrenal exhaustion.

HEALING ALTERNATIVES
If an adrenal test shows that you are producing inadequate levels of adrenal hormones, several routes are available for increasing either DHEA, cortisol, or both. First, you can take the hormone directly. If you take DHEA, opt for small doses of pharmaceutical grade DHEA (5–10 mg/day, but possibly up to 25 mg once or twice a day).1 Have your levels retested every three months, and when levels return to the normal range, the dose should be gradually tapered until you’re off the hormone completely.
Some individuals require very small doses of hydrocortisone, which can be used safely and effectively if prescribed by a health care provider knowledgeable about how and when to use it.
Be aware that if you supplement your adrenal hormones in dosages that are too high, or if you take supplements for too long, the result can be permanent depression of adrenal function.

SPIRITUAL AND HOLISTIC OPTIONS
A far better option over the long run is to restore adrenal health and function so your adrenals can eventually produce the hormones you need on their own. That will require making changes in the lifestyle that caused the adrenal depletion.

Here are some suggestions:
Focus more on loving thoughts. Thoughts that bring you pleasure (like thinking about people you love, favorite pets, a delicious meal, or even a sweet memory) short-circuit the harm done by the body’s physiological reaction to stress. This learning to "think with your heart" may be challenging at first, but it’s definitely worth it. If you faithfully learn this and regularly pay attention to areas of your life that bring you joy and fulfillment, you will evoke biochemical changes in your body over time that will recharge your adrenal batteries. (For assistance, I recommend the training programs and books from The Institute of HeartMath.) In addition, do more things that bring you pleasure and make you laugh and fewer activities that feel like obligations. Spend more time with people who make you feel good and less with people who are draining. Dwell more on what you like about yourself and less on what you see as your limitations. In short, have more fun! Make pleasure a priority instead of a luxury.
Allow yourself to accept nurturing and affection. If you didn’t learn how to do this as a child, you may need to practice it. Every morning before you get up, spend a minute or two reveling in a memory of a time you felt loved. Do the same at night. Imagine your heart being filled with this love. Use affirmations that help you feel deserving of this nurturing and love.
Follow a healthy, whole foods diet with minimal sugar and adequate protein. (Every meal or snack should contain some protein.) Avoid caffeine because it whips your adrenals into a frenzy. Also avoid fasting or cleansing regimens because they can weaken you further.
Take a good multivitamin/mineral supplement. Be sure it contains plenty of vitamin C (1,000 to 2,000 mg a day in divided doses), a B complex (25 to 50 mg a day), zinc (15 to 30 mg daily), and magnesium (300 to 800 mg per day in divided doses—in fumarate, citrate, glycinate, or malate form).
Try herbal support, including: 
- Licorice root: This herb contains plant hormones that mimic the effects of cortisol. Start with a small amount and gradually work up to one-quarter teaspoon solid licorice root extract three times per day.2 Make sure to monitor blood pressure, as licorice may increase blood pressure in susceptible individuals. 
- Siberian ginseng: One of the components of Siberian ginseng is related to a precursor for DHEA and cortisol. Try one 100 mg capsule two times a day. It can have a stimulating effect, though, so if it interferes with your sleep, take it before three p.m.
Get plenty of sleep: Sleep is the most effective approach to high adrenaline levels. Many women require eight to ten hours of sleep to function optimally. Try to go to bed by ten P.M. Getting to sleep on the earlier side of midnight is much more restorative to your adrenals than sleep that begins later in the night, even if you sleep late the next morning to get in your full amount of sleep.
Exercise regularly. Regular light-to-moderate exercise is helpful, but not so much that you feel depleted afterward. Pushing yourself beyond your limits weakens your adrenals even further, so start slowly—even if it’s only walking down your street and back. Then build up slowly.
Get more exposure to natural sunlight. This is not only good for your adrenal glands, but it boosts vitamin D, as well. Sunbathe only in the early morning or later afternoon, however, never in midday; and never get enough exposure to burn or even redden your skin. Work up to ten to fifteen minutes of exposure three to four times per week. This type of brief exposure will not increase your risk of skin cancer.
Prioritize. Make a list of your most important activities and commitments, and then let everything else go. Don’t agree to a new task or commitment unless it’s something that will recharge your batteries.

[This article is taken from Dr. Christiane's website http://www.drnorthrup.com, originally published in her classic, encyclopedic book Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom. She can be heard on internet radio hayhouseradio.com on Wednesdays, 6pm to 7pm Cairo Time, check schedules.]

Dr. Chris Northrup is the author of the best-seller, encyclopedic book "Women's Bodies,
Women's Wisdom" and her newest book is "The Wisdom of Menopause."

An Obstetrician-gynecologist with nearly 20 years of clinical and
medical teaching experience, she was also a co-founder in
1986 of WOMEN TO WOMEN, an innovative healthcare center
for women in Yarmouth, Maine, and a past president of the
American Holistic Medical Association.

This background has given her a unique perspective
on how to help women heal themselves and learn to create health
daily without living in fear of illness. She has articulated the difference
between healing and curing, and why disease screening is not the
same thing as creating health.


LEARN MORE | RECOMMENDED READING OR RESOURCES
The Wisdom of Menopause, by Christiane Northrup, M.D., Chapter 4, "This Can’t Be Menopause, Can It?" the section called "Menopause and Adrenal Function"
The Institute of HeartMath, 800–450–9111 (for a system of heart-focusing techniques that are taught through training programs and books)
The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent and Ask and It Is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks
Life Beyond 100: Secrets of the Fountain of Youth, by C. Norman Shealy

Bauhinia Spring

Compiled by Samia Zeitoun
First published in Heliopolis Magazine, April 2001

"One of the most attractive flowering trees is now on show in our streets announcing the approach of spring. Look out for the pink, white or lavender orchid-like blossoms of the Bauhinia Variegata tree. It is a medium sized deciduous tree native to India and China. Its lobe-shaped leaves have given it the popular common name of camel foot tree or Khuf el-Gamal.

... A tradition held in Hong-Kong, called the Bauhinia Festival, casts national attention on this beautiful species,; during the month of March, mass tree plantings are held in specially selected areas in which all the community participates. In addition to improving the city's lanscape and propagating the Bauhinia, it serves as a tourist attraction in Hong Kong."

In the Penthouse of Your Soul

An excerpt from an interview on healing with Caroline Myss:
Sit quietly with yourself and say:
“I am empty of meaning. I want to listen,
but I fear losing the familiar
and having to make choices to give
up things that give me security
in the normal world.”
[I also fear loosing the approval
and acceptance of those closest to me..]

The dilemma [or healing crisis that forces this soul-searching] sheds what is insignificant and forces you to work with the present moment. In the penthouse [of you higher consciousness], one experiences what Myss refers to as Grace or the Revelation of Truth.


But!! most people have difficulty living at this altitude, so you have to catch the good vibes while you are there and bring them back down with you.

According to Myss, the soul understands unreasonable things; the ego only understands reason. So clearly, to heal we need to take the elevator to the penthouse and hope that a divine enema will be delivered to allow the pain to pass through along with all the toxic thoughts, emotions, memories, habits and beliefs that keep us attached to suffering and being active co-creators of suffering.

Myss refers to the soul as, “The centre of who you are.. of everything”. She believes that if you are very still and in reflection, you will become very aware of how each choice is conscious. She referred to this state as self-awareness.

She described the Grace of Reverence as the “the divine wind that grabs you. It unties the knot in your gut. Takes the heat out of the shame.”

And Away We Go!

"Cheetah motherhood is a solitairy job.
Males appear briefly for mating but play no role
in rearing the young. After 18 months, Amani [the mother in the National Geographic story Mama Cat, Jan 2005] moves to a new part of her 300-square-mile range, leaving behind [her curbs] some very confused and distressed offspring. But it's for their own good, and hers: as long as she is mothering them, they will not mate, and her legacy will suffer.
So, Amani will return to life on the savannah,
searching for another mate and tall grass where new cheetahs can learn to run.. "

There should be no despair for you

There should be no despair for you
While nightly stars are burning ---
While evening sheds its silent dew
Or sunshine gilds the morning

There should be no despair, though tears
May flow down like a river ---
Are not the best beloved of years
Around your heart forever?

They weep -- you weep. It must be so
Winds sigh as you are sighing,
And Winter pours its grief in snow
When Autumn's leaves are lying

--- They revive and from their fate
Your fate cannot be parted:
Then journey on if not elate
But never broken-hearted
Emily Bronte, 1840 (Pen name: Ellis Bell)

Financial Responsibility

Cheryl Richardson, a life coach, how to accomplish the goal of this year to become more financially responsible.

1) every day write out 20 times: 'BEING FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE COMES EASILY FOR ME" or "I AM NATURALLY FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE"
With this you are creating a new groove in your mind and you begin to reinforce it by repeating this affirmation over and over.

2) Sit down and answer the question: "what are some important things that I (we, if it's with your partner) need to do to begin to be more financially responsible that I / we keep putting off?"

3) Sit down with a financial planer, or manager at a bank, or a friend who's good with money, someone who can guide you in some way

4) If unemployed, go out there and land SOME job, anyjob.
If you put your body through the motion of getting up and going to a job every day, his will change the energy.

we have a wise self that has our best interest at heart

when you take the time to make positive affirmations, and combine that with taking right actions,you get results.
you are sending a mesg to your wise self that you are a good stewerd and this shift in consciousness that makes things happen.

(when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.)

it's not magical thinking but positive thinking, with intention, COMBINED WITH specific action (sometimes can be something you know that you've been putting off)
is the way to get results.